Author Joan C. Webb has had the same struggles, so she wrote It's a Wonderful (Imperfect) Life: Daily Encouragement For Woman Who Strive Too Hard to Make It Just Right (Regal 2009).
Joan has graciously invited me to share one of the devotionals from her book and answer a few questions about the process of finding relief in our imperfections. She has also given me a copy of her new book to giveaway and it's been autographed by her.
It’s a Wonderful (Imperfect) Life (published by Regal, 2009) is a collection of daily reminders that God wants and longs to relieve women from living in a continually overwhelmed state. There is a difference between “trying too hard to make it all just right” (mental chase for flawlessness, which is impossible) and “partnering with God for excellence” (enjoying quality in balance, which is not only possible, but reasonable). We can reduce our unrealistic expectations about our relationships, bodies, work, dreams and faith.
*Easy Does It
That everyone may . . . find satisfaction in all his toil—this is the gift of God. -Ecclesiastes 3:13
"Honey, you've had a busy day. Come watch the game with me," suggested my husband.
"In a minute.”
Silently I added, First I gotta clean the kitchen, wash a load of clothes, and finish tomorrow’s report. My promised “minute” evolved into several hours.
Speaker Robert J. Kriegel contends that “gottas” have become the chief reaction for many of us in our bigger-better-faster-more culture. “The Gotta's can run your life," writes Kriegel in his book, If It Ain’t Broke . . . Break It!
I gotta clean the house before company comes. I gotta study my Bible lesson. I gotta get an A on that test. I must start the kids on piano lessons. I should host the neighborhood party. It can become a never-ending cycle of inner demands.
Obviously you and I need to accomplish certain tasks in order to lead healthy lives (brushing our teeth, showering, to name a few). However, when we let the shoulds and gottas control our lives, we lose our sense of contentment. God isn’t the one who pressures us. He wants us to delight in our life and work—whatever it is at this season. Satisfaction and enjoyment are God’s gifts to us.
Lord, I don’t want to be confined by my “gottas.”
but getting rid of the excessive shoulds in my
vocabulary isn’t easy. Please help me.
Make It Personal: Name three gottas that could keep you from enjoying this coming week. Now eliminate one of those gottas—just for the next few days. Easy does it. *
HERE ARE A FEW QUESTIONS THAT JOAN HAS ANSWERED:
So I thought this was my perfect opportunity to tell all of you that I WAS that person and I got BURNT! I was going to tell you that you need to "nip it in the bud" because I have been there, done that and it's not fun! It's true but I found out that in a totally different way I have become that person again. Leave it to God to make me part of this tour. He comes in just when you didn't know you needed him.
So back about 15 years ago is when I got so BURNT that I ended up in the hospital for 8 days with my asthma. That is was when God came into my life and I became a Christian. I am not going to go into detail but I had to be the best. Not in a show off kind of way but in a way that I never said "NO" and had to be there for everyone. Often choosing others over my family, especially my husband. I had to have the cleanest house. I cleaned from house from the time my kids went to school until they got home. (I do miss that clean house!)
Then what happens when you can no longer do things because of illness you turn into someone you don't like at all. It's very easy to go in the opposite direction and become lazy. Depression sets in and it is hard to climb out of that whole. I'm still looking for a ladder. Those of you who read me remember the stress I felt when company was coming this summer. My house had to be the picture of perfection and oh did I stress out. It was fruitless stress, they just wanted to see me.
Why God has shown His face again you ask? I am finding myself wanting to be a huge people pleaser in the blog world. I want to follow everyone, I want to comment to everyone and just recently I have been feeling like I am ready to burn again. This time it's my stomach, it's on fire. So I am going to put this book to the test and get control of my life.
Don't get me wrong, I love blogging and I am going to continue. I'm not going anywhere because blogging has also given me a new lease on my life. I am just going to do some weeding and concentrate on my favorites. You all know who you are, you see my comments all the time.! So maybe the next time my husband asks me to watch a movie or some TV show I won't have to say "in a minute just let me finish reading my blogs."
God has blessed me with my For Your Tears blog and I will forever be thankful to Him. This blog causes me no pressure, just a heavy heart for all the baby lost mothers. I receive the most wonderful comments, emails and notes. It feels so nice to be able to give my heart to these women. This is where I have to shine, giving myself to God's plan for me. Pleasing Him is a pleasure.
A different devotional is being featured each day in the four week Wonderful (Imperfect) Blog Tour. Tomorrows host is Lynn Cowell. If you want to check out the whole tour please go here. If you are interested in ordering this book please stop over HERE to purchase one of your own.
~THIS IS JOAN~
SINCE THIS IS MY FIRST GIVEAWAY IT WILL BE PRETTY SIMPLE:
1. Leave me a comment.
2. If you want another entry just follow me in Google Friend Connect and tell me that you did. (If you are a follower in Google Friend Connect just let me know in your comment)
TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS. Debby
A winner will be chosen on November 25th!