Well I'm not going to argue with what God has placed before me. My first reaction was horrible. (I am sorry) See I am a person with great patience but CHANGE is a whole other story! I am set in my ways and you don't mess with my ways.
When we were young and had our children you hear all the stories about how awful it is when the nest it empty. It's an adjustment but I personally handled it pretty well. As long as my children were happy I was happy. Even when it meant being far away. I have always told my children that they could live anywhere they want until I have grandchildren, then they have to live near me. (go ahead, call me selfish) I guess I was selfish with that statement because there are not grandchildren coming anytime soon. I am almost 59 and I wanted to be a cool hip grandmother. That's not happening but I was the cool hip great aunt for my sister's grandchildren.
So back to the situation at hand, the one that has had me stressed and a little blue. Our daughter and son-in-law are moving in with us in a few weeks. (Believe me if you could have been a fly on the wall when my daughter and I had a four hour argument, OMG) One thing I know about me is that I need time. We knew there was a chance of this happening and I was already making plans in my head on what we would do to accommodate them. Then when it actually became a reality I crossed over and turned into somebody I did't like.
Take a deep breath Debby and relax. This is your daughter and her husband after all. Parents help their children when they need help. So take some time, think this out because it's going to happen. As you know I don't leave my house much. I am in my PJ's until well into the afternoon. I blog all day and watch movies. Why does my life have to change.
It will be different for all of us. They don't want to come here to live but we have always told them that we are here if they need us. Now nothing awful has happened. Actually we have been telling our SIL to leave the company he is working for. Obviously that really isn't a possibility at this time with the huge numbers in unemployment. His employers are not nice people and he needs to get away from them. On the other hand he makes very good money. So the plan is to live here, get their cars paid off and hopefully get himself a new career. The store our daughter has worked out for six years is closing in a few weeks so she will find a job closer to our home.
I was really upset because this makes big changes for Skye & me. Now this time I am being selfish again. (that's what happens when you were the baby in the family and always had your way) See Skye loves our daughter. I am the bottom of the totem pool when she is around. Skye is the joy in my day and I'm going to miss her hanging with me. I have spent allot of time crying about this. We will also have Charlie living here so rather then having him over once in while and the two of them chasing all over the house, this will be happening every day!
I am thankful for all.
Well anyway it happening and I will look to the bright side. As much as I dislike the fact that we must pack up our two guest rooms so they can have a bedroom & den, it will be okay. These two rooms are at the front of the house so we will all have our privacy. My husband and I still have our offices to retreat to. We will actually only be sharing the kitchen and laundry room. I will also now have my daughter (who comes & cleans house for me now) as a live in maid and I won't have to pay her! I won't be able to have company come out to stay with us :( but that's okay because we had plenty last year. This is a temperary situation and heck I might even grow to love it. Maybe I will be more motivated to go out to the show or shopping with her being here. So say a prayer and cross your fingers. It's going to get a little harder before it gets better. I will keep you posted. (silver lining: they won't be late for family dinners anymore!)
I am thankful for all.