Sunday, November 24, 2013

WHEN PLANS CHANGE

I have a hard time being spontaneous because that means I'm not in control. How are you when plans change? Sometimes I'm okay on the little things, like this last week Mark had taken the whole week off. We were gone Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and he took the extra days so he could go shooting at the gun range he belongs to. This is something he loves to do and just doesn't get to go as often as he would like. 

Well we had rain and cold weather on Thursday and Friday so he wasn't able to go :(  He doesn't usually like to go on the weekends. Remember on the 16th he had a tooth pulled so we didn't celebrate his birthday. Well that tooth ended giving him some discomfort so he went to the dentist on Thursday. Come to find out that he needs a root canal on the tooth next to it which is how he spent his Saturday! 

So some spontaneous things are okay, especially when they involve going to the show. As you know we saw "Last Vegas" on Thursday and on Friday we went to see The Hunger Games - Catching Fire (IMDb). I have never read the books but I loved the first movie. I loved it so much that I bought it and watch it often so I was so ready for Catching Fire! I loved this movie, I was so into it that I didn't even realize how long it was and when it ended I was caught by surprise. I wanted more and believe me they leave you wanting more......
"Katniss Everdeen and Peeta Mellark become targets of the Capitol after their victory in the 74th Hunger Games sparks a rebellion in the Districts of Panem."
 (Hallmark ornament this year!)

So I didn't get my laundry done and I didn't find time to work on my second tree which really throws me off but this kind of thing is workable. It's okay to be spontaneous sometimes when things are little. So my laundry got done on Saturday and I worked all day on the second tree. Hopefully I will get it finished today!  
Now for the things that happen that I can't control. The ones that have your stomach in a knot most days, crying often and your heart breaking. There is something I haven't shared and I just feel it is time. Our daughter Amber and our son in law Dylan are getting divorced. Things haven't been good for the last year and he moved out 3 months ago. 

Helping her deal with something like this has my heart hurting so badly for her. Of course I miss Dylan too, he has been a part of our family for over 12 years. I'm just asking that you keep them in your prayers. 

I feel that God has a plan for Amber and happiness in her future but for now we must have patience because this is something that takes time. All we can do is hold her close and let her know how much she is loved.

20 comments:

Deb said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and son in law...it's even harder during the holiday season....prayers that all works out for the best....I'm pretty flexible with plans...having our own business for over 20 years...and my Hubby working in the service field for all the 30 years we've been married...you learn sometimes plans have to be changed at the last minute...our kids learned that too...

Sandra said...

i am a total control freak, have to control everything, so I don't do well when things spin out of MY control... i don't mind some things canceled by rain or weather but somethings i do... i used to be much worse, but in old age have learned to say oh well and go on. so sorry to hear about your daughter and son in law.. my friend took here 3 teen grands to see Hunger games, the first one and she said she was prepared to hate it but they wanted to go and it turned out she liked it.

Chatty Crone said...

I love to have control - but I learned I could not be in control - I have had some mighty hard knocks. I am sorry your kids are in this kind of trouble - it is a hard world out there and at times I have found all we can do is pray and really turn it over to God! Sandie

The Boston Lady said...

Debby, it is hard to deal with surprises, good or bad, for me too. I always try to think-in the end I will understand why this has to happen and that there is a reason why it is happening- I might be strange, but this helps me. Sometimes. Those gut-wrenching, crying your eyes out things such as Amber's divorce are the worst and hardest to come to terms with. She is very fortunate to have you to help her go through this. Of course you will miss Dylan too, he is family. I believe something good will come out of this. Big hug to all of you, including poor Mark with the tooth adventure.

I was let down by Catching Fire. I think I expected too much, but Wendy loved it. I will watch it again eventually with new eyes, I hope. I always expect to much when I've read the books first!

Ann

TexWisGirl said...

i am sorry about the divorce, especially after a long time. bless them both as it is not easy.

Empty Nester said...

I'm so sorry that they are having to go through this. I will certainly keep them in my prayers. As far as spontaneity goes, I learned, from raising four daughters, to go with the flow. Even when it flows at the last minute. LOL

KC Bob said...

Thanks for the thoughts about the movie.

Bummer about the kids. I can relate. Nothing tears our hearts up like our kids.

betty said...

I am sorry about Amber and Dylan, Debby, its hard to see a relationship fall apart to the point of divorce and then see the aftermath of how it affects all involved. I will continue to pray.

I'm getting more spontaneous with plans when they change, but its an adjustment at times.

I did like the first Hunger Games, I'll probably see this one when it comes out to rent.

betty

Lea said...

I think there is a little bit of control freak in all of us. I do like to know what's coming down the pike but am finding that's pretty impossible in recent years.

So sorry about your daughter. It always breaks our hearts when our children hurt, no matter how old they are.

Wishing you a happy thanksgiving!

Stacy said...

I haven't read any of the Hunger Games books or seen the movie...or had any desire to, but I have to say that after seeing the preview for the new one in the theater my opinion (about the movies, not the books) might be changing. It looked good.

Mara said...

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. I wish her all the strength and more she needs in the time to come. Give her a lovely Norwegian 'klem' from me: just press your cheeks together (it's like a kiss without the kiss and a hug without the hug).

Kathy ... aka Nana said...

I admit it - I'm a huge control freak. So I know what you mean about a change in plans.

I'm so sorry to hear about Amber and Dylan. I'll be praying for her ... and you as you love and support her.

Emily Sovich said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and her husband. Divorce is such a hard thing.

xinex said...

I am so sorry about your daughter and son in law. I will certainly offer a prayer for them. But who knows, maybe they will get back together like you did.....Christine

Joyce said...

Hi Debby-I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and son in law. We feel our children's pain, no matter their age. Twelve years is a long time, and I know there is grieving. I will keep everyone in my prayers, and hope you find blessings tucked into this holiday season in unexpected places. Hugs to you today.

racheld said...

Debby,

I don't comment often, but my heart is with you and hurting for you in this time of change and heart-break.

My prayers and thoughts to you and your family, and my wishes for a houseful of love and bountiful blessings this holiday season.

rachel

Secret Agent Woman said...

I just found out this morning I have to have a root canal. :(

And I'm sorry about your daughter and SIL. It's harder to watch your kids go through something painful than to go through it yourself.

Cyndy @ Back in the Bush said...

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's pending divorce. I well know how hard they are. I hope, in the end, she is happier! xoxo

Sonya said...

I'm hoping we will get to see Catching Fire next weekend after hubby's office Christmas party. So sorry about your daughter. I've been there before and it's not easy. I will be praying for her.

Laura said...

Debby,
I was just reading your most recent post and noticed you hadn't mentioned Dylan and realized I must have missed a post so came back and found this. Just wanted to let you know that Amber and Dylan and you are in my prayers. I imagine this must be really hard during the holidays too. Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you! (((hugs))) L

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