Normally I would have flown to Florida this week. I've spent the last six years with my dad for Father's Day and his birthday which is on the 25th. He would be turning 97. (Mark and I have an anniversary on the 24th) I still can't believe he is gone. It was hard not being able to say goodbye.
However, if he were here I couldn't be there with him today. So all I can do is remember the past and the awesome man that he was. To think that he lived alone up until earlier this year. He lost my mom 38 years ago and he just stopped driving 3 years ago. He was also very self efficient except for appointments that my sister took him to along with some other things. (Thank you Darcy and Bob)
But what I do know is that he would not have survived this. He had fallen a few times and was in rehab. Then his time was up and he couldn't go back home. So basically a week before he died he was moved to an assisted living facility. (He was tested for Covid-19 and didn't have it.) Now keep in mind my family in Florida could no longer visit.
He was thrilled to be out of rehab. I talked with my dad daily, have been doing that for years and years. I'd say this was about 5 days before he passed away. He was so excited! "I've got my walker and I'm going out to the garden." I was so happy for him.
Turns out he never made it to the garden. They were not allowed. They couldn't even go into the hallway. It crushed his spirit. He gave up. I think he would be alive today if it weren't for the shut down. He was a go getter.
I miss you everyday....
My Dad walking me down the isle 1972.....
Adam, James and Mark last year on Father's Day.
I was in Florida. Love them to pieces!!
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Love the pictures of your Dad.
I miss my Dad too.
Have a great Sunday.
Those lock-downs may have been necessary keeping Corona at bay, but it has been hard on people's spirit.
Lovely photos though.
I'm so sorry for your loss. May the Lord bless you with precious memories today. xo
I know you miss your dad and especially today! He almost made it to 100. Are you going to visit James today
Even tho' my daddy's been gone since 1981, each Father's Day is difficult. Thinking of you and others who were never ready to say 'goodbye.' May your precious memories bring you comfort!
I know how you loved your dad and this is your first father's day without him - it has to be hard. I am so sorry.
My dad died in 2003 and I still miss him.
Happy Father's Day to your family!
sandie
I believe you are right Debby. He lost his will to live with all the restrictions he had. Such a shame too. The garden would have been so delightful to visit I bet. Great picture of him and of Mark, Adam and James!!
Hope Mark and Adam have nice Father Days!!
Betty
Father's day without your father is a rough one. It's been a lot of years since my dad has been gone and I still miss him terribly.
I don't doubt that not being able to get out and do what he loved had a big impact.
What great photos! This virus has affected so many people in so many ways. I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. ((hugs))
Isn't that just a rotten shame, Debby?!!! The story of your Dad "giving up" because of his circumstances isn't the only story I've heard along those lines. I think I would have given up too! This rotten virus... it's robbed humanity of so much. Love & gentle hugs to you, Andrea xoxo
Great pictures and memories. You and I were both blessed to have wonderful fathers.
Its hard letting go of what you do everyday with a loved one. Hang in there...
What a handsome group of guys. My parents would have been devastated over Covid-19, especially my dad💖
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