Friday, February 17, 2012


1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 NIV
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres

Mountains on Thursday, loved how the sun was hitting the peak.

So I was a little upset with Mark that he was going to be out of town for Valentine's Day. I mean it's okay, I get the business aspect of it but why would they schedule a convention during Valentine's week. See the problem is that my poor hubby has to tread lightly around me. I've been hurt, I have learned to deal with jealousy most of the time but sometimes it shows it's evil little head. So he decided not to mention that this trip was during Valentine's Day.

So one day I was looking at the calendar and bingo there it was, his trip would make him out of town for that special day. Well Debby went into her pity party for one and made of point of asking him why he didn't tell me. I'm like it would have been nice if you had come to me and said "Honey, I will be out of town this year for Valentine's Day so do you want to celebrate before I go or when I come home?" Seems simple to me but he is never sure how I will react so being quiet is usually his plan. Doesn't always work for him!

So I was a little pi**ed off when he left. I made a point of telling him in my sweet voice "you better not send me flowers because they will sit by the front door and die!" Don't you just love me sweetness, my ability to be understanding. Sometimes I amaze myself. He left the Friday before and I got a card in the mail from him which was lovely. Then on Monday the flowers arrived. He sent them Monday because I go out to bowling on Tuesday's running errands afterwards. Well I took them in and opened them up. Honestly I was missing him and these little tokens were melting my heart.

Well we did have a good laugh the other night. See in all honesty I could not find the Valentin's card I bought for him. But since I was angry I decided to just put in a generic card that I was mailing out to the children in the family. It didn't say much and I didn't sign my normal "love always, Debby" no way, he just got a "love, Debby." You gotta love me, right? So I told him about the fact that I misplaced his card and how I was mad at the time. He said he was wondering why the card was so simple and we laughed about it. Isn't it nice that we can laugh about those things? (I had slipped the card into his packed suitcase before he left)

Needless to say I know how foolish I can be. As grown up as I can be I still act like a spoiled child often. Sometimes it amazes me that he actually came back to me after we divorced. Did he really think I had changed. I guess I fooled him. Anyway, I did miss him while he was gone and I am going to try to be a better wife because one thing I know for sure is that I love him with all my heart.

So I started a new medication for my COPD and I waited until I was home along with someone else to make sure I didn't have some adverse reaction. Do you think I am evil because for a moment I thought about laying on the floor to see what reaction I would get since I told them to check on me in my office? (Well it would have been my bad because they never checked anyway)

So while I am being truthful here I have never liked having to type word verification on blogs but I do it because I am a fan of the blog I am reading. For a person who read 50 posts a day it can be very time consuming for me. (By the way if you are with Blogger Spam mail will never show up in your comments) Anyway, have you noticed that verification has been changed. It's those ugly two word ones where one of them is very fuzzy. Actually I was directed to a blog that can say it better then me. Head on over to The Run*A*Round Ranch Report to read her view on this subject. I love leaving comments and talking with my blog friends but some days I think it would be fun if we could just hit "LIKE" like we do on Facebook! Now don't get me started on the ones that say my comment was too short or the ones where the verification doesn't go through because I typed it wrong and the long comment goes away!

(not to be confused with the musical)


Polly said...

We didn't celebrate valentines for the first time ever this year, Footy training was on and my DD is coach which sadly means he has an obligation to the team, plus we are just so busy and Im so tired. I feel sad about it to be honest, I think we will make it up to each other in the next couple of weeks.

Keetha Broyles said...

I HATE the new word veri's. I don't think I've had a single spam comment since blogger put the spam blocker up.

LynnMarie said...

I'm with you on the word veri's thing as well. I use my iPad a lot and some of those boxes are just too small! I've have pitty party's as well, it's OK. Glad you can now laugh about it.

Nani said...

Don't get me started on the word verification! I hated the old ones, which is why I never had them on my comments and never will! All my comments have to be approved by me, which means there is no gibberish for my visitors to type and I don't miss any of my comments, I get to read them all. And you're right, I don't get spam messages, they all go in the blogger spam file.

My husband, for the first time since we've been together, did NOT get me Valentines Day flowers this year. It actually surprised me how much that bugged me. I asked if there was anything wrong stress, money trouble he hasn't mentioned. When he asked why I told him that it was the first time he didn't give flowers on V-Day. He'd read somewhere that women think it's cliche to get flowers, especially roses on Valentines Day. Humph! I told him the article he read was written by a bitter woman or a cheap man.

Kathy ... aka Nana said...

I agree wholeheartedly with you regarding word verification. I don't read THAT many blogs, but with the new verification, it's getting to the point where it's too much trouble/bother to leave comments on the blogs that require verification.

Secret Agent Woman said...

I gave my boyfriend permission to boycott Valentine's Day - we had dinner together the night before and didn't mention it the next day. No hurt feelings or expectations.

And oh, how I loathe word verification. Especially the new one. If I have to be away fro a while and need to catch up on several posts, I often only comment on the most recent one because I just hate having to go through that process. It is so unnecessary and time-consuming. If spam is genuinely a problem (and blogger does a great job of filtering it out) use comment moderation. Simple.

Sarah (Nikki) said...

Hi Debby. I noticed those two word verification words and hate them. I can hardly make them out. And reading about your valentine reaction especially the words "they will sit by the front door and die!" made me smile. We're all so human. Love that about you.

Stacy said...

I hate to admit it, but I am guilty of acting that way, too. :/

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

The new word verification is KILLING ME. Ugh. I hate it so much.

Sorry you didn't get the valentines day you wanted, but I'm glad you were able to laugh it off in the end, and I hope you get a nice dinner date once he returns :-)

Rochelle@AFamilyofLooneys said...

Ah I hate, hate that word verification. It is a big pain in the butt!
I have acted that way with Chris when I have been mad. I know sometimes that it is not right, but the other part of me just does not care. And yes you should have laid on the floor to see what the recreation would be. I love your honestly Debby. We all have days when we are not living up to our best.

Headless Mom said...

The mountains were spectacular yesterday, weren't they?

Joanne said...

My hubby has had to do alot of Business trips and when he was still in the Army trips were a given. I would get mad too...then I would be upset with myself for getting mad...UGH! Good to know that you both got a good laugh in the end.
Blessings, Joanne

Deborah Ann said...

Don't feel bad, hubby never gives me anything for Valentines Day. I didn't even get anything for my 50th birthday a few weeks ago.

Men...can't live with 'em, can't live with 'em.

Alexis AKA MOM said...

Debby you freaking crack me up!

As you know I've gone threw a similar thing and do the same thing with Rick. It's a hard thing no matter how much time has passed to let the past be just that. I know my pastor always tells me I have to forgive just not forget but man that is easier said then done!

hehe I would have done the same thing and would have been laying on the floor until dinner time only when they didn't see the food on the table! LOL

nancygrayce said...

That is so funny! Before Christmas, my sister told her husband she didn't want anything for Christmas....that they just weren't exchanging gifts. So .....poor sap......he didn't get her anything....and on Christmas morning, when she finally realized that he really didn't get her anything, she blew up and said "you believed me???"

I never, ever say DON'T get me a gift, although we really don't usually exchange gifts. He sensed I was down this Valentine's day and he went all out with flowers and cooking dinner.


Shandrea said...

I hate those new two word verification thingy they do now also. lol glad I'm not the only one.

xinex said...

I am so sorry Mark was away for Valentine's but nice that you could laugh about it afterwards. Love is lovelier the second time around...Christine

TexWisGirl said...

thank you dear!!! THANK YOU!!!

and i was SO laughing at your valentine's day card and acting like a child! ha ha! i can so understand!

gigi said...

I think it was good that you got that out of your system and that you can laugh about it.

I hope you have a great weekend.

EmptyNester said...

Sometimes we just need to vent or confess to get it off our chests. I admire your honesty. I truly do. And I'm so glad y'all got a laugh out the whole thing. I don't know how I missed that y'all had divorced and remarried. Or maybe I didn't remember. Regardless, that is amazing! And the word verification thing? I'm not commenting on those much anymore. Takes too long.

Stephanie said...

Oh I'm with you on the word verifications but had to install them on mine for a short time because I had the dirtiest ugliest spammer leaving UGLY things on my blog:(
I should check and make sure I took it off! :)
Glad you survive Valentines much stupid pressure.

Chatty Crone said...

Okay - I love your honesty in your story - gee can I relate to that - more years ago, but even now and then some.

How did the medicine go?

And I agree - I can't read those word verifications. They are driving me nuts.


Kathy said...

Well, Debby, we've all had those "pity parties" at one time or another. I once had a really big one when Ed had to fly to Chicago--and it wasn't even Valentine's Day! I'm not proud of how I acted, but at the time I couldn't help myself.

I'm with you on the word verification, too. It takes more time than writing the comment! You're my second highest commenter, and I love you for that. Thanks!

It's funny that you mentioned not liking Suze Orman at first, cause I didn't like her at first either. She came across as arogant to me. I think she's mellowed over time, and seems a lot more compassionate toward people in financial trouble, as is evident in The Money Class. I hope you'll watch!

Emily said...

I can understand how you felt about your husband's Valentine's Day trip. I would've been upset, too.

As for the word verification problem, ugh! Don't even get me started!

Trennia said...

Debby, I am still laughing *smiling* at this post!
I even went to check and commented on my blog to make sure I didn't have word

Jesus Calling said...

You know what I "think" I discovered, when those two words come up and I cannot figure them out, I type what I think and if it is close enough it takes it. I only say this because I can swear many times I am so far off that I will have to do yet another and another one until I hit the mark. Only to find out, it takes it on the first.

CiCi said...

Interesting reading someone writing about true behaviors and true life. Your husband must see good things in you and as you continue to learn new, better behavior you will see more and more good things in yourself. Funny that I would see other couples and think that they must never fight or talk mean to each other because when they were in public they seemed so well meshed. I so like that you and your husband were able to laugh together and that seemed to be a way to forgive each other.

Unknown Mami said...

You are not foolish, you are just human and like you have been hurt.

Heart2Heart said...


I love your honesty! Thank you for being as open as you are because it makes you more real to me. I experienced a similar Valentine's Day nightmare a couple years ago, not to mention our Anniversary falls on Feb 9th. I think I could have given you a run for your money that day on holding the wicked title.

Thanks for reminding about the word verification thing as well. Every time I take it off, I get Viagra and other sexual product ads in my comment box so thus the need for some protection for lack of a better word.

Hope you're having an amazing weekend!

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

Lea also known as "CiCi" said...

Well, so glad ya'll could enjoy a laugh about it all afterwards. And, I hate the new word verification, do you hear me, HATE! Hope it was a happy weekend for you dear!

Mamarazzi said...

yes the new word veri sucketh!! a lot!

Tracy said...

I admire your courage to be honest....and well those of us who have been extremely hurt, those fears do seem so real at times even if we know in our head we are safe.
I'm glad you could laugh about it eventually...and me too, I hate word verifications...

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

I noticed just the other day that the word verification thing had changed to a 2 word phrase. I don't like it at all because it's so hard to read! I didn't like it before either, but now it's just painful!

He came back knowing full well exactly who you are, and clearly he loves everything about you.

Trish said...

I love your honesty Debby, it is quite refreshing. Hey, we all get ticked at our Husbands at times...we are human after all.
I have never been a fan of the word verification' it's a double pain! Lol. Oh, and like buttons would be nice at times.

Garden of Egan said...

If you have turned off the word verification on your blog do you still get these???
I hope not.

I loved this post. It doesn't matter how long you've been married you still want to be that special Valentine from your Valentine! I love your honesty.

Nichol said...

Your honesty is wonderful. My husband knows I hate flowers and sends them just to piss me off haha. Anywho, I guess business is business and I too would act like a spoiled baby if my husband had to be out of town, but I'd get over it.

I hate the new word verification on blogs!

Cherie said...

My husband was also on a business trip for Valentine's day - It stunk. We did go out the Saturday before, but you just kind of want the one you love there on Valentines day. Oh well - I suppose business doesn't care.

Laura said...

This post made me smile because I can be the same way with my husband!! I'm glad I'm in good company! ;-)

As for the word verification... I KNOW!! I don't read as many blogs as you do, usually just my faithful commenters (which are not many) so I didn't really know what you were talking about on FB until my son's teacher's blog... WHAT A MESS! Took me a second time (not that that was a HUGE deal, but annoying just the same!).

Great minds think alike!! ;-)

Holly said...

I HATE WORD VERIFICATION!!!!!!!! It's even worse now that they changed it and it makes me not want to comment on anyone's blogs who has it.

Heather said...

Men can be so silly sometimes. I'm sure he didn't want to disappoint you, but it was going to happen whether he told you right away, or waited until last minute...because the fact remained that he would be out of town no matter what. You are not a terrible wife, or a spoiled one, or whatever you may have called yourself in this post. You reacted as most any wife would. Even better, I may not have even put that generic card in the suitcase if it were me, haha. Your feelings were hurt, understandably. And I agree with you, that the better way to have handled it would to have asked you when you would have liked to celebrate the day since he would be out of town that week. I'm glad things got cleared up though. It's always hard when there are hurt feelings between a husband and wife. I always feel better once the air is cleared.

Oh! I totally hate those word verification things...I have often wondered if there was some polite way to ask that particular blogger to adjust their settings...ha!! And I also noticed that it's gotten WAY harder to read. Not even a regular person can figure out what those things say. I have to go through at least two before I get it right! It keeps giving me a new word until I get it right. Sometimes I just want to throw up my hands and skip leaving the comment at all...sigh!

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